So you’re getting married! Congratulations! As you might have noticed already, planning a wedding can be exciting and overwhelming all at once. Maybe you’ve already found vendors to help your planning process a bit easier! But even so, if you’re anything like the hundreds of couples we’ve worked with, there are likely some uncomfortable or awkward details about your Big Day that are still bothering you.
Maybe questions like, “Two of my family members are feuding — how do we handle the situation?” Or, “What kind of underwear should I wear with this dress?”
Take a deep breath and keep reading for five questions you might be afraid to ask (but shouldn’t be!) when planning your wedding that might help clear up any jitters.
It can be a super tricky situation if you have family members who are feuding. It’s never easy to be the mediator between two people, especially if they’re both family members. While it’s not your responsibility to solve the beef between them, you can help avoid any conflicts from happening at your wedding by separating the two.
When it comes to your seating chart, you could put the two family members at tables that have a sufficient amount of distance apart to mitigate any awkward encounters that don’t have to happen.
If you feel you need to be more involved, you can discuss with them individually beforehand (or even together if you think it’s appropriate) to let them know you and your fiancé aren’t taking sides and you’re just trying to make things easy on your wedding day. Let them know what you’re planning to do so they know why you’re doing it and with that in mind, they can be on their best behavior for your wedding.
This is definitely an uncomfortable situation to be in because it would be ideal to invite everyone you love and care about! However, we know this isn’t always realistic depending on your unique situation.
The best way to ensure you’re not going over your budget (and awkwardly having to uninvite people) is to, first, plan out a realistic budget when first planning your wedding to determine how many guests you can realistically invite to your wedding.
Another option is to limit the number of guests who can bring a plus one to your wedding. We suggest only allowing plus ones for fiancés or long-term relationships (it’s up to you to define what a long-term relationship is, but we usually suggest 1+ years).
We know this can be a bit nerve-wracking to tell certain guests they can’t bring a plus one, so here are some of our suggestions to create the best outcome possible:
Remember that you have to do what’s best for your unique situation, and inviting more people than your budget can handle just to please every single person isn’t worth putting your own finances at risk.
Believe it or not, and no matter how silly it can sound, this is something a lot of brides or members of the wedding party don’t think of until the day of the wedding! But in reality, depending on the dress that you or someone else is wearing, underwear can be a tricky thing to navigate. After all, most people would prefer that their underwear isn’t distracting and doesn’t show up in photos!
So we suggest wearing seamless underwear with a color that best matches your skin tone to avoid your underwear from being seen through a dress. Seamless underwear is great because they are seamless to your body, doesn’t have any edges or ridges that will show under your dress, and come in a variety of colors. If you want to be extra careful, you could also opt for a seamless thong.
This is a common fear among the couples we work with! We have a couple of solutions to this question when we hear it:
But most importantly, remember that you are likely overthinking it more than your guests! If you’re anything like the couples we work with, one of your priorities is making sure your guests are always having fun. However, your guests are there to celebrate your marriage, and your ceremony won’t be boring for them! They’re just excited to be there and honored to be a part of your day.
We’ve been noticing lately that couples are adding on time to their reception. So instead of a standard 4-hour reception, they’re opting for a 5- or 6-hour reception — on top of their ceremony and cocktail hour.
Totaling up everything, this ends up being an 8-hour day for their guests! This is quite a long time to ask your guests to stay. We often see guests leaving early and miss out on the formal farewell to the couple, which can be a huge bummer for both the couple and the guests.
So we suggest a 4 to 4.5-hour reception so guests can celebrate and stay until the big finale — without getting too tired!
Your wedding is a special day, and it’s normal to have a few jitters — especially if you have to tackle these awkward or difficult situations.
If we have to leave you with one last tip to help make all of this easier, it’s to hire a wedding planner to help make sure the process goes smoothly. You’ll also have an expert by your side who can tell you how to best navigate these situations if you ever run across them. (Because trust us, it’s not our first rodeo!)
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